Wednesday, February 23, 2011

The "Plan"

Why would I even consider coming up with any semblance of a "plan"? Because I am crazy like that. But as details about visitor's travel arrangements have started to materialize, I can't help the fact that my brain starts laying out the calendar and analyzing how the next few months could play out. The date I really have my eye on is Monday May 9th; that is the first official day of Andy's summer break. So as you can imagine it would be ideal if I didn't have to come back to work until then because we could basically do a baby hand-off and not have to worry about finding a few days of daycare.
It shouldn't come as a shock that I have my maternity leave intricately planned. I know exactly how many hours I have saved up between my Sick Bank, Personal Leave and Vacation Time and I have laid out a few different scenarios as to what I can do. At the end of the day, I decided the smartest thing would be to only take 8 weeks of maternity leave. If this were an ideal world and we were made of money I would take the full 12 weeks and spend the extra month rolling around in my piles of money....wait I guess if I am dreaming big I might never come back to work and spend an hour everyday rolling around in my piles of money. But this is real life and I have to think ahead. So if I take 8 weeks that will leave 2 weeks of vacation time for the rest of the year. Sounds like a lot of time, but when you realize that has to last 9 months and babies can be volatile little people, it could be a crunch.
Plus we have exotic travel plans. In June we're taking the Nugget to visit his g-parents in Philadelphia and in November we have my family reunion in Louisiana....which if you are a fan of food wrapped in bacon, is a "must attend" fact I am pretty sure Andy would divorce me if we were unable to go this year. What can I say? The boy likes his bacon and he also likes agitating gators. I used my strategerie to arrange these trips so it would only use a day and a half of vacation for each one. Depart Thursday afternoon, come back Sunday. You get the idea. But basically that means if Nugget is sick more than 7 days out of the next year I am in big trouble! Oh and I forgot there is always the possibility that I could get sick....shit, I forgot to factor myself in.
Anyway, this post isn't meant to come off whiney. In reality the fact that I have the opportunity to be home with Nugget for even a couple weeks is such a freakin' priviledge. I keep thinking of women who work out in the fields, squat and have their babies and then go right back to work. Makes me sound like quite an a-hole.
So to make a long story short, it all boils down to March 14th. March 14th is the day that I could start my maternity leave and then Andy would be out of school when I go back to work. Now I am seriously trying to be one of those "go with the flow" people. I know how asinine it is to even think that I can control any aspect of Nugget's arrival. This boy is going to rock my control-freak world! And I realize that I am potentially the only pregnant woman in the history of the world who is actually hoping to stay pregnant into her 41st week. But I can't stop that part of my brain that looks at March 14th and thinks 'everything would work out perfect if I could just make it to that day'.
It isn't unfeasible to think that Nugget could be at least 7 days late. Technically I am only asking him to make it to Friday March noon. If we're getting specific.....not that I ever get specific about anything. Dang I am such a dork. Now that I have put this information out there in the universe I bet this little guys is going to show up tomorrow, just so he can be like 'better get used to me not listening to you're in for it'. I am pretty sure he is in there snickering right now and rubbing his hands together as he plots the distruction of my ability to control things.


  1. March 9th is my goal date. A little early but the perfect amount of time with PTO, semi-paid leave, etc. Any later and work gets shitty, any earlier and I run short of PTO. I think its okay to 'plan' but be okay when Nug has his own thoughts. :)

  2. As a control freak also, I can understand where you are coming from. I also had 2 children 11 months apart. It definitely makes it hard to control things! As long as you have a good attitude about how things come and interrupt your planning, you'll be less stressed and more free to control another day. :)

  3. For what it's worth - I'm glad you're not going to have to squat out in the fields to have your baby and then go back to work! ;)

  4. Isn't it crazy the places where new mom's get 6 months or even a year off for maternity leave! I'm a planner too so not being able to set a date and stick with it is a hard concept to wrap my brain around.

  5. It doesn't sound whiney... It sounds complicated. Good luck!

  6. Great, now I'm imagining you squating in a field. :) Love a good money rollin party, invite me over when the time is right!