Damn it! I have decided that when it comes to making this decision, I would just rather only have little girls and bypass the whole thing. I'm talking about circumcision. I had my 20 week appointment with my midwife last Friday. Andy was at home waiting for the repairman to fix our dryer, so it was just me this time, which was more than okay. We usually spend a lot of time talking about poop and other fun bodily functions, so it was probably cool for him to sit out for one of those sessions. Anyway, it had occurred to me that now we were dealing with a penis and a homebirth a few things might need to be coordinated. I had told Andy way back when we started trying that if we had a boy, I would leave the circumcision decision (hehehe rhyming) up to him. I kind of felt unqualified to make that call. He seemed pretty decided that he was for circumcising our boy, so I left it at that.
So during our appointment I asked the midwife how that would work since we're planning to birth at home. It's easy peasy at the hospital, they just do it right after he pops out. Obviously she doesn't do circumcisions, but I have heard you want it done pretty early on. I asked her if we would take him to a dr. office the next day or something. She started by saying 'well, first, I wouldn't recommend circumcising him'. She told me that the medical profession doesn't recommend circumcision and that the times have changed so the cases of kids being made fun of in gym class and such is minimal. So she told me all the reasons there are not to circumcise, but then she told me how we could go about it, if we decide that is what we want. I left in a state of contemplation and indecision. One thing she had said was 'you could always wait and let him decide later on if that is something he wants to do'. That made a whole lot of sense to me. My parent's were awesome enough to give me that right when it came to religion. They decided not to baptize me and instead let me choose if I wanted it later, which I didn't. I know I am a heathen, but it makes me happy that they left the option up to me. So I started thinking maybe it should be that way with Nugget's junk. Maybe he should be the one to decide whether he wants a turtleneck or not.
Of course if we wait until he is old enough to decide, then we are talking about a scheduled surgery. I doubt insurance covers putting your teenager under the knife for a circumcision. Then what? He is out of school for a few weeks and tells his buddies he is going in to get chopped? Maybe I am oversensitive to this subject? Maybe I should just stick with my original decision to let Andy be the one in charge of it. But does anyone else feel a little guilty about delivering your beautiful little boy and then handing them over to someone to cut them?